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I just want to share this email i received few months ago from a close friend of mine. It is all about factors in enhancing a relationship. I hope you will learn from it. ;)

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose
number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.


CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. .

RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

I've been reading the blog of Mary Anne for how many days now. I got interested upon reading the Love Story of Ron Navarro and Anne Abedoza. I can't wait to see how their love story ends. Will they end up together? ahehe.. Their Love Story makes me "kilig" Super! I remember my college days.. I remember someone.. hahahayyy.. (Mura kog buang cgeg katawa sa ofis samtang nagabasa sa ilang love story. Lingaw jud kaau as in!.) So if you have time, please read this one. http://terryannemary.com/. Somehow it will brighten your day "kay mag cge ra man kag katawa and kiligon sad ka sa ilahang duha..". hahahaha.

I look forward for tomorrow's post. 2 sets more to go! Weeee....

It has been a roller coaster ride for me for the year 2008. If i only knew what we had will ended up this bad, I should have done this before he did! I don't want to talk about it anymore. It still gets under my skin. He's more than a sh*t! that's all i can say about him period!!

Year 2009 will be the time to look forward to. It is the beginning of a new day for the rest of our lives. We should all be optimistic about today and the future ahead of us. Remember, what a person thinks plays a vital role to the outcomes in their life. Forget the past, it does no good, only harm to be thinking of those problems. Leave old hurts behind in 2008. There's so much to be thankful for.

Another year is yet to come. If anyone hurts you, it is healthiest to not hate but instead feel pity for him/her since he/she is the one who has lost the chance of your love and he/she is the one who is fickle and may not again find love and happiness.

May the New Year give you peace, joy and happiness to your hearts! Happy New Year Everyone!

Grrrr.. I was in front of my personal computer having some chit chat with my officemate Mylene when my mom turned on the radio and tuned up to her favorite station when suddenly the station played "Love will Lead you Back". Grrr.. It was my favorite song way back but NOT until when i experienced painful unforgettable moments. You know the LOVE thing. He's the reason why i changed a bit! Grrr.

Soon i'll going to post what had happened to me last Christmas! and mind you it was the worse Christmas i ever had! I'm kinda busy at the moment with other extra curricular activities. :-)

I've had to deal with problems for the past few days and that's the mere reason why i haven't posted anything on my blog. What i went through is not easy though i have no choice but to be strong.

I filed a 1-day vacation leave last Monday. SOmehow, it helped me to worry-free myself from all the problems I've encountered. I am very much open to talk about my personal problems with my officemates. In fact, i always ask for their own opinion and see what advise i could get from them. I remember what Molit told me last night something like: "Gurl, if you want to work things out or want to make things better then i suggest hold on to that person but if time comes, you can no longer take the pain then it'd be better to let go of that person. it's too much! Be strong, Hold on and Have Faith."..

It feels so good when you have your good friends with you especially in times that you needed them most. I can say i am lucky enough to have them. They are NOT a bad influence to me. I just want to take this opportunity to thank them for always been there for me.

I hope 1 day he'd be able to see my worth. Only time can tell him that. I watched "Your Song" last sunday and there's line there that hits me. A guy (played by Enchong Dee) said and it goes something like: "Ngayon, handa na ako na maging bf mo" and the girl (played by Kim Chiu) replied: "At ngayon para sa akin wala na".. touching, isn't it? If you happen to be an avid viewer of this show, you'll know what i'm talking about.

Our relationship may not be perfect but it was REAL. :-(

I don't wanna talk about my personal problem. I just don't feel like doing it. I can still take the pain, I just know when to stop. :-(

→ Indeed, truth hurts.